Last week I came across Aaron Bleyaert’s post titled How To Lose Weight in 4 Easy Steps. A person I admire in comedy posted it and, basically, if she posts someting…well, I will read it. All of it.
I wasn’t sure what to expect, being on my own fitness journey and all. Perhaps the typical ‘eat less’ and ‘work out more’. I wasn’t prepared for such a candid look into self discovery, and was touched to see the four major steps, with description, included:
- No Beer
- Portion Control
- Have Your Heart Broken
- No Fruit Juice
Now, we all do what we do for a reason, right? A pattern, a habit, a fear…whatever. Number 3 in Bleyaert’s blog post really spoke to my heart. Sure, heartbreak. We have all experienced it – or we should, because HOT DAMN what a learning experience. That’s only a part of this section, as Bleyaert’s words were more about feeling unlovable and worthless and digging deep and doing the work to be able to show yourself love and value. For 36 years I lived that. Oh man did I live that. I put nearly everything into other people and relationships and situations, and without getting anything or expecting much in return, I felt empty and worthless and depleted. I believed that I was worthless and incapable and,well, you know…like the saying goes “You only attract the love you think you deserve.”
Think about that. If you can’t show yourself love and patience and care and how can anyone else? They can try, but if you don’t feel you are worth it, you will never accept what they are giving you. Learning this has changed my life.
Through my job(s), I often have the privilege to share conversation with many different people, and those who have been following my trials and tribulations via this blog often ask questions about my experiences. Mostly, I think it’s because they are considering embarking on something similar to my journey, but don’t quite know how to make the jump. Girls and boys, I so get that. Oh man, do I get that. Let me tell you one thing…YOU ARE WORTH THE JUMP.
Did you read that?
YOU ARE WORTH IT. ALL OF IT.
I get it. There are so many things in the way of showing yourself love and care. Work. Family. Scheduling. Kids. Money. Caretaking. The list goes on and on and on. You’ve got things to do! And if you’re not going to do them, no one will. OH HONEY I SO GET IT. But. Those things are going to consistently be there, I promise. I know this. I live this! It’s just, well, you have to realize that you a priority, too. You are. And feeling good is the absolute NUMBER ONE way you can nail all of the other things that are circling around you. I know this to be true, because, well, I’m in this too. You are worth putting yourself first. This will allow you to be a better person to all of the people in your life. You are allowed to make choices that benefit you. Make the time. You’re worth it.
Make that doctor’s appointment you’ve been putting off.
Schedule that coffee with a friend.
TAKE YOURSELF SHOPPING AND BUY YO’ SELF SOMETHIN’ REAL NICE.
Take that terrarium class you’ve been eyeing. (this is actually really fun!)
Join me for a one hour workout at Solcana. It’s an hour. You can do all of it. It’s scary and intimidating and amazing and you’re going to feel like you can really kick some booty. One hour. Do it. I’ll be there with you and walk you through every single step. Together. Because you’re worth it.
A couple of weeks ago, someone told me that I was in great shape. I laughed. But you know what? I haven’t been able to get that out of my head since because I never thought those words could – or would – ever be used to describe me. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve got a long way to go on this here path I’m on. And I’m going to do it. Because I have finally realized that I am worth it. I can’t be good to everyone else unless I continue to be good to myself. I’m so thankful to have a community of people at Solcana CrossFit that keep encouraging me to do exactly that – people who lead with clear heads and clear hearts, people who have made me feel like I finally belong somewhere. Let me pay it forward and pass this on to you, too.
You’re worth it. We’re all worth it.